One-year-old baby is about to learn “rules”
It is said that one-year-old babies are the most headache. Since they learn to walk and talk to you, they have become unorganized and undisciplined.
Either he bit the child yesterday, or he throws his spoon into the toilet again today, and you can’t even predict what headaches he will have tomorrow.
At this time you should pay attention: it is time to teach him some rules.
20 months in the morning, a naughty young man.
He held a paintbrush to paint his own art on the wall of the living room at home, when he heard his mother yell “Stop!”
“I couldn’t understand it, so after replying to my mother with a bright smile, I continued his creation.
The mother was distressed. On the one hand, she didn’t know how to explain to her child that although he painted beautifully, he chose the wrong place to paint.
On the other hand, even if you explain it to him, he won’t understand. Maybe you are trying to let the one-year-old learn “please”, “thank you”, “not fighting with children” and encourage him to “share with others”Know how to be modest “; also feel that it is too difficult for your baby to understand these rules.
Even after repeated failures, you will unconsciously choose to give up, always comforting yourself with “when he grows up, he will naturally understand these”.
Don’t think so, you must know that “learning rules” is a very important basic course for your baby.
One year is the time to lay the foundation for this course.
Take a look at our suggestions, which may help you solve the problem.
It is not that the child does not understand the rules, but that he is too limited by himself.
1. The baby’s ability to understand and speak is relatively weak.
According to Professor Rothbaum, an American child behavioral researcher, compared with his rapidly developing cognitive ability for a one-year-old baby, his ability to understand things seems to have been stagnant.
Therefore, it is difficult for him to use these poor understandings to grasp a rule (even if it is very simple and understandable).
And at this time the child does not have the ability to predict the thoughts of others.
No wonder Chen Chen turned a blind eye to her mother’s attitude.
Can’t speak, can’t express, can only understand part of the language, these are obstacles for the baby to learn rules.
Experts explained that before one and a half years old, although the baby can speak some basic languages, he can understand simple conversations.
But this language ability alone does not allow him to communicate with others normally.
2. The baby has no sense of time and space.
It is generally accepted that babies of this age need to understand the concept of time.
Maybe you tell him to “stop” and he can understand.
But if you say “wait a while” to him, it will be too difficult for him.
You must first let him know what the concept of “a while” is.
The concept of time that the baby can understand is just: have you fulfilled his wishes in time.
In other words, he wants a toy, and if you can meet him in time, he may sit and play according to the rules you set; once you fail to do as he asks, he will cry.
3, the urchin psychology.
Sometimes babies like to break the rules and look surprised or even angry.
For example, when a baby just learns to turn on the TV switch, he will be very interested in this matter and will keep turning the TV on and off repeatedly.
If you ask him to stop with a serious expression at this time, it may be counterproductive.
Because he has got a new game from your attitude: whenever I touch the TV, my father will have a funny expression on his face and he will talk to me (even if you say “no”, I like it).
Baby’s learning process Despite the above adverse factors, babies of this age can still learn some of the most basic rules.
Studies show that babies around 12 months can learn what is right, what is wrong, what is good, and what is bad by observing their attitudes toward people, things, and things.
By the end of the first year, the baby can recognize other people’s feelings.
At this time, you can teach him that it is wrong to bite someone. The person who bites it will be very painful and uncomfortable.
You can even let him experience it for yourself. Before teaching your child rules, make sure your child understands what you are saying.
Just like you teach him to sing, explain the meaning of the lyrics to him first.
Then he can remember deeply.
This process is long and requires your double patience and understanding, waiting for him to send an “I understand” signal.
Teach such a small child that rules allow it?
The answer is yes.
Just like you teach a baby to talk, he may not learn it right away, but he will accumulate this knowledge a little bit.
Therefore, you should also teach your baby to understand the rules from the age of one, learn to avoid danger, and learn how to get along with others. These are all microcosms of baby’s social ability.
It’s just that you have to be prepared for a protracted war.
An effective way to teach your baby to learn the rules1, don’t just say it next, show it to your baby.
A simple sentence often does not allow children to understand the meaning, so it is best to add your expression and intonation to make your class more lovely and more acceptable.
For example, when you say “don’t move the power socket” to your child, don’t tone too harshly, just take a little seriousness, plus a little angry facial expression, the baby can grind from your voice and expression: what he doeswrong.
On the contrary, if you are too nervous, your voice is too sharp, and there is a series of criticisms, then the baby will respond to you with the same response and resolutely work against you.
Your rules and regulations classroom will become a battlefield.
2, persistence is victory.
Don’t think that just telling the child “this is wrong” once, he will remember it.
If you point out your child’s mistake once and turn a blind eye to the other times, the child must be confused: do we do this right or wrong?
Then in order to resolve this doubt, he will keep trying to do it again.
So repeat the “rules lesson” for your child so that he can learn new things.
3. Be a good role model.
Babies often learn what you should and should not do from your behavior.
This means that your behavior must be “please”, don’t get angry at every turn, learn to wait.
You can also take the initiative to show your good behavior to your baby.
For example, “Look, Mom distributes the newspaper to Dad, and we like sharing it together.”
4. Face reality.
Experts remind us that you can’t expect a one-year-old baby to understand all the rules, and you must grasp the scale when teaching.
For example, the child instinctively puts the ground in his mouth, which is a unique way he knows things.
At this time you should avoid things like card issuance, coins, and things that can cause the child to choke out where he can go.
Also, it’s best for mothers to comb their long hair to prevent children from scratching.
5. Choose the right time.
It is impossible to keep a one-year-old baby strong all day.
Once a child feels tired, dry or in a bad mood, it is easy to lose his temper.
At this time, you should stop insisting on letting him learn the rules, and give him some “break time”.
In addition, for a baby, too many rules can make him offensive.
It’s better to pick out some of the more important ones to teach him, something that can’t bite, the power can’t be moved, and it is wrong to grab people.
However, it also depends on the specific situation of the baby. If you feel that his behavior is really intolerable, of course, you can put this rule first.
6. Don’t doubt your child’s innovation.
It is important to note that a child’s behavior is not entirely unreasonable, and sometimes it is a manifestation of his creation.
As long as he does not harm himself and others, he still has to protect the creation of the child.
When you find that he will beat his own rhythm with the bottles and cans in the cabinet, why not enjoy it with him?